The following was written for the Australian publication "Evangelical Action" for their next edition--July 2015.
Note: I have been asked
to present a four part series on the issue of homosexuality and same-sex marriage.
This is the first of that four-part series. On the whole, this series is
predicated upon the foundational matters pertaining to biblical authority and
inerrancy. Therefore, I recommend a past article I wrote for Evangelical
Action, “The Ecclesiastical Promotion of Homosexuality and the Demise of
Biblical authority” in the 2010 December issue (pages 35-39). An abridged
update of this article can be read at http://www.inerrantword.com/180015375/blog/180004060/Mark_Christopher?author_id=220000022
. In part two, I will address the use of Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13 in this
debate, before surveying the key New Testament passages in part three. Finally,
in part four, I will address some of the commonly asked questions. The
following article is adapted from my2009 book “Same-Sex Marriage: Is It Really
The Same?”
I
am often asked how we, as a society, have arrived at the place where same-sex
marriage (hereafter SSM) is approved of, aggressively promoted, and legal in a
number of places around the world? In part, I can answer we have arrived at our
current destination because of the mess the rest of us have made of marriage.
We have not honored marriage as Hebrews 13:4 exhorts us to do: “Marriage is to
be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for
fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
So
what is an honored marriage — what does it look like?
- It is Costly: An honored is a marriage that is both praised and prized. It is like a precious jewel, not some common-place institution, which is taken for granted. Sadly, after the vows have been exchanged we so often are guilty of becoming insensitive to the real meaning of marriage. We easily forget that the marriage covenant is always between 3 people — a husband, his wife, and God.
- It is Contrary to the world: The world at large denigrates and diminishes marriage by promoting loose living devoid of boundaries. Hollywood revels in taking sex out of marriage and placing it into every sphere of society while experimenting with every conceivable sexual distortion. So the boundaries are always being extended.
- It is the Citadel: Marriage is the basic building of society that adds the needed form and structure to provide stability and human flourishing. The demise in marriage and family results in the failure of a nation and the ensuing judgment of God: The love of many will grow cold … as it was in the days of Noah … as it was in the days of Sodom and Gomorrah so shall it be in the coming of the Son of Man (Luke 17:24-28).
So
how do we reverse this trend, or at least stall it? How do we as Believers
pursue God-honoring marriages? We must go back and consult the blueprint — God’s
template as found in Genesis 2:18-25. When in doubt consult the owner’s manual!
What do we find when we consult the owner’s manual? God’s divine building
blocks for marriage. Creation is really where the whole discussion of
homosexuality and SSM should begin — at the very beginning, because this
undeviatingly establishes the divine lines for the architecture of marriage and
sexuality. Here are 5 of the most obvious building blocks of marriage from the
creation account:
1. Marriage
is reflective: According to Genesis 1:26-27, “Then
God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image,
according to Our likeness; and let
them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the
cattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the
earth.’ 27 And God created man in His own image,
in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
The
ultimate purpose of marriage is seen in that marriage reflects God and His
image.[1]
This is not to imply that singles don’t represent the image of God. Both
genders reflect the imago dei (image
of God) in very different and yet complementary ways. The male and female were
distinct and unique, and yet similar. But when united in a covenant commitment
before God, and then brought together in physical intimacy, they mirror
essential aspects of the triune God-head in a way the rest of creation never
could or will. Gender distinction is a
creational reality, not a result of social or cultural constructs.[2]
This is one of the reasons God does not endorse transsexuality, transvestism,
and transgenderism. Gender bending is antithetical to the unique distinctions
God implanted in the man and woman, respectively, from the dawn of creation.
Any attempt
to androgynize (merge or blend the sexes together) men and women, as both the
feminist and homosexual lobbies have done, is tantamount to defacing God. It
results in the graffiti of God’s crown jewel of creation. The androgynous ideal
seeks to erase the gender distinctions God intended from creation. No amount of
reconstructive surgery and hormonal treatment can alter the genetic code that
bears the imprimatur of one’s God-given gender. SSM, whether intentionally or
unintentionally, insists on giving God an extreme makeover He neither wants nor
needs. For this reason, this issue is as much about gender distinction as it is
about sex and sexuality.
2. Marriage
is meant to be completion:
Genesis 2:18 says, “Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be
alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him’.”
It was not
“good” (not beneficial or fitting) for Adam to be alone, so God created a
“helper” suitable to meet the need of his human solitude. Eve was the missing
ingredient of this creational ordinance. As a helper, Eve made up that which
was lacking in Adam. This was something the rest of creation was unable to do,
because the rest of creation was and is devoid of image-bearing qualities.
Though Eve was very different from Adam, she was still very much like him. In
this way Eve was the perfect corresponding opposite or complement to Adam
because of her essential equality with him. Had God made them exactly alike,
Eve could not have provided the necessary attributes to complement and so
complete Adam. In Eve, Adam found the perfect counterpart that nothing else in
creation could provide.
It is never
good for man to be alone. The fulfilled life is found only in community life
with other image-bearers. This, in part, is what it means to be an
image-bearer. This is why Bobo the circus chimp can never fill the social void
of humanity. Yet, male and female together, in a covenant oath before God, find
completion and fulfillment.
The point
is simple: men and women are different and yet similar at the same time. The
result of this contrasted correspondence equals completion. SSM seeks to ignore
the differences and redefine the completion. Yet one has to overlook the
obvious to achieve this level of denial. Think of all the biological
differences between the sexes. Last time I checked only women could gestate and
lactate. Then, on the emotional front, think of the many dissimilarities where
a heterosexual couple complement one another. For example:[3]
- Men are often more physically aggressive; while women are sometimes more sensitive and understanding. This is why most of the spousal abuse that takes place in marriages is perpetrated by men.
- Men often find analytical thought easier; while women are often more intuitive. This is why engineering courses are crowded with a preponderance of males. On the other hand, how many husbands have wished they had listened to their wife’s assessment of another person or situation?
- Men are more contemplative; while women are more communicative. One of the most common complaints from couples I have counseled over the years is that “he doesn’t communicate”, while he maintains “she talks too much.”
- Men respond sexually more by sight; while women correspondingly respond more to emotional connections. In all of the adultery cases I have counseled, the affair began with flirtatious advances and a strong emotional connection. The men confide they were physically attracted to the other woman; while the women admit to an attraction based on an emotional appeal that developed over time.
- Men require immediate justice; while women are more inclined to compassion. This is, in some measure, why it is often heard that women should rule the world instead of men, because it is thought that women would not be as quick to go to war.
Just think
of how these distinctions are valuable in child-rearing! Both sides of the
above equation are crucial ingredients in the enterprise of parenting.[4]
When temperately demonstrated and modeled before children in the home, these
contrasting characteristics can help produce a healthier and better-rounded
child.[5]
Sadly, same-sex couples will never be able to offer these much needed gender
differences to any children they might have.[6]
This is
precisely why men and women complement each other so well. It is by divine
design! Adam and Eve were a perfect
corresponding pair. They corresponded physically, mentally, emotionally,
socially, and spiritually:
“Marriages
don’t bring similar things together. They bring different things together and
help them work for a common good. Same-sex unions are not marriage because they
don’t bring the two different parts of humanity together. They bring similar
things together, thus the word same in ‘same-sex marriage’ … Women complete
men, and men complete women … A man can’t complete another man, nor can a woman
complete another woman.”[7]
Again, the
authors of Marriage On Trial make the
crucial point that SSM ultimately robs a family of true dignity:
“Same-sex
families seeking equality with the natural family devalue humanity because they
proclaim that one part of humanity is unnecessary. Women help men become what
they are created to be, and men help women become what they were created to be.
To deny this is to deny our full, God-given humanity.”[8]
Therefore,
SSM is not complementary. Rather it seeks to bypass God’s requirement of making
up that which is lacking in one’s spouse. Perhaps this is one of the reasons
why homosexuals often have such a difficult time with committed, monogamous
relationships.[9]
3. Marriage
is meant to be cohesive:
Genesis 2:22-24 says:
“And
the LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man,
and brought her to the man. 23 And the man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones,
And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of
Man.’ 24 For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall
cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”
The
“oneness” in verse 24 is a uni-plurality, which is the glue that serves to
merge the distinctions of Adam and Eve together into one cohesive unit. It
requires the man to “leave” his parents, which means he now emotionally
detaches himself from them to form a new priority relationship with his bride.
The conscious act of the “cleaving”, leads to the emphasized result of “one
flesh”, where two are now made into one. The term used for “one” (echad) is the same term used for the
unity of God in Deuteronomy 6:4 where Israel’s God is said to be “one”. This active “cleaving” is the glue that binds
the two corresponding parts together into an indissoluble whole. This implies
three interrelated aspects of marriage cohesiveness:
- This ‘oneness’ speaks of companionship — This is closely related to the former element (of being cohesive) of marriage, marriage unites two opposites into a unit that produces a distinctive level of companionship that could never be achieved in a SSM. In ancient Israel, this matrimonial oneness was said to create a kinship bond so strong that she became a sister to his brothers and a daughter-in-law to his parents.
- This ‘oneness’ also speaks of commitment — This commitment is expressed in a mutual, unconditional covenant before God and each other as witnessed by our fellow man (cf. Genesis 2:23). Then, and only then, comes the physical bond of intimacy. This intimate act forms a physical, emotional, mental, volitional, and spiritual bond that is exceedingly strong, because it involves the total person. In
1 Corinthians, the apostle Paul
underscores this same idea:
“Or do
you not know that the one who joins himself to a harlot is one body with her?
For He says, ‘THE TWO WILL BECOME ONE FLESH.’ 17 But the one who joins himself
to the Lord is one spirit with Him. 18 Flee immorality. Every other sin
that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his
own body.” (1Corinthians 6:15-18)
Paul’s
argument is that sexual sin of any nature is different from other sins because
it involves the whole person: body, mind, and spirit. The consequences of
violating God’s standards here result in affecting every facet of one’s being.
Sexual sin of any kind is unique among all other sin in that acts like a stain
to the soul. This is why sexual abuse, rape, incest and adultery are so hard to
overcome, because the whole person has been violated and these acts are devoid
of the commitment intended from the beginning. Erwin Lutzer explains, “The
sexual bond can be so powerful that it can even determine the direction of a
person’s orientation.”[10]
For
this reason, among others, God’s sequential recipe for marriage is: one man and
one woman in a covenant commitment that subsequently expresses itself in sexual
union. This, to great extent, symbolizes the union of body, mind, and spirit.
This is why physical intimacy apart from the covenant commitment cannot equal
marriage and is not considered marriage in God’s sight (Malachi 2:14; John
4:17-18). Such extra-marital relationships form an alien bond and stain the
soul ( a stain the blood of Christ can cleanse), but they do not equal
marriage. So, it is no coincidence that every successful culture and society
has historically maintained matrimonial rituals and social celebrations of
affirmation. Such indicate the approval for the wedded couple now to live
together as one.
- Further, this ‘oneness’ speaks of permanence — also known as monogamy. Marriage is a bond of unity that should not be broken except by death. Ephesians 5:22-33 clearly records that Christ cannot be severed from His Bride, the church. Can the unity of the trinity (tri-unity) be severed? Yet, SSM unions are seemingly incapable of monogamy.[11] According to the research of Dr. Timothy J. Daily on the issue of monogamy among homosexuals:
“While
the rate of fidelity within marriage (heterosexual) cited by these studies
remains far from ideal, there is a significant difference between the
negligible lifetime fidelity rate for homosexuals and the 75 to 90 percent for
married couples. This indicates that even ‘committed’ homosexual relationships
display a fundamental incapacity for the faithfulness and commitment that is
axiomatic to the institution of marriage.”[12]
Dr.
Daily concludes that monogamy in the gay community is not possible because they
see sexual relationships “primarily for pleasure”, and they are taught,
complements of the sexual revolution, that “monogamy in marriage is not the
norm.”[13]
Now,
contrast this with heterosexual marriages, where 75% of the married partners
are faithful to their vows in the first 10 years of marriage. Additionally, of
those heterosexuals who do get divorced, they do so after ten years of
marriage. Interestingly, one 70 year longitudinal study found that divorce
takes six years off each of the affected spouses’ lives and four years off the
lives of each of their children.[14]
As a side note, smoking takes six years off one’s life. Maybe instead of suing
the tobacco companies for the consequences of smoking, victims of divorce
should sue the government and judicial system for making divorce so easy. Yet,
one local (in Cape Town) SSM advocate, when making his case for SSM in The Cape Times, said:
“In the case of lesbian and gay couples, they
commit to honour, respect, support, and love each other. Such covenants are
intended to be exclusive and permanent, the basis of creating a new family
model that will not only have the stability necessary to rear children (if the
couple wishes to do so) but will also sustain the partners to the end of their
lives.”[15]
Such
specious thinking does not intersect with reality. All the statistics I’ve read
indicate a blatant incongruity between the homosexual lifestyle and monogamy.[16]
In short, homosexuality is against nature:
“….
homosexuality is against nature. The plumbing doesn’t work. We weren’t designed
this way. When homosexuals ignore nature, first they invite into their own
bodies all sorts of infectious diseases. Second, there are emotional problems.
Even in every homosexual relationship, there is a male and female role. One of
them plays the male or the dominate partner, and the other plays the female.
This shows by nature God has made us male and female. He has made each sex to
complement each other.”[17]
In the
same vein, Dr. Camille Paglia, a lesbian scholar and author, categorically
states: “Homosexuality is not normal. On the contrary it is a challenge to the
norm …. Nature exists whether academics like it or not. And in nature,
procreation is the single relentless rule. That is the norm. Our sexual bodies
were designed for reproduction…. No one is born gay. The idea is ridiculous …
Homosexuality is an adaptation, not an inborn trait.” [18]
What a
refreshingly honest admission from the other side of the debate!
John Piper
offers a nice summary of this cohesive principle, “Eve was like Adam yet very
unlike him … this provides a unique opportunity for profound unity, and
intimacy to exist. In this we see that God created heterosexuality not
homosexuality. God’s first institution was marriage not fraternity.”[19]
4. Marriage
is meant to be productive:
Genesis 1:28 says, “And God blessed them; and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful
and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the
sea and over the birds of the sky, and over every living thing that moves on
the earth’.”
Now,
granted, procreation is not the only reason for marriage, but it certainly is a
very good reason. Mankind is meant to propagate and to perpetuate this unique
and dynamic image-bearing species. It doesn’t take a Rhodes Scholar to figure
out the obvious fact that it takes a man and woman to procreate naturally.
Consider that males have both X and Y chromosomes, while females have only
pairs of X chromosomes. It is the presence of the Y chromosome that determines
whether the baby is a boy or a girl. Whether feminists like it or not, the
man’s chromosomes determine the gender of the baby.
In the 2006
constitutional court battle in South Africa over SSM, one of the advocates for
SSM indicated that the focus on procreation in marriage had become socially and
technologically obsolete, “Procreation is not a defining characteristic of
conjugal relations. This would be doubly offensive to those couples who are not
able to procreate.”[20]
SSM
proponents try to divorce sexuality from its procreative aspects. But left to
themselves, homosexuals would soon die out. Evolutionists call this “survival
of the fittest”. The presupposition behind SSM thinking is the notion that
sexuality is a purely biological response for self-gratification. Yet, as one
informed journalist in World Magazine
reminds us :
“Marriage
is not just about love or sex or companionship. It is about establishing a
nuclear family. Marriage is not for everybody … Nevertheless, what marriage
does is establish a new family. And families are the bricks of which every
society, every culture, every government is built … Families form clans, clans
form tribes, and eventually tribes come together in nations … When the family
falls apart, so does the nation and so does the culture.”[21]
It must be
remembered that, as part of the creation mandate, God created Adam and Eve to
serve as His representatives and caretakers of creation. They, as image-bearing
creatures, were meant to subdue and rule the earth. Apart from procreation,
this dominion capacity could never be realized. This is why God repeated the
command to procreate after the global flood (Genesis 9:1-7).
5. Marriage
is meant to be exhilarative:
Genesis 2:23; cf. Proverbs 5:18-19 declares, “Let your fountain be blessed, And
rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 As a loving hind and a graceful
doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her
love.”
God is not
a cosmic prude who disapproves of sexual relations. To oppose immorality is not
the same as opposing sex. Yet, promoters of SSM take great delight in trying to
portray the biblical view of sex as anything but pleasurable. In fact, God not
only encourages a healthy and vibrant sex life, He commands it (1 Corinthians
7:3-7)! But God’s proviso is that sex remains within His established boundaries of a heterosexual, covenant commitment.
Marriage regulates our sexual activity and desires. Without marriage you have
the mess spawned by the sexual revolution — unwed mothers, illegitimate
children, fatherless homes, shattered emotions, ruined relationships, and
unchecked desires.
In summary,
the heterosexual norm of marriage provides many necessary benefits to both
individuals and society at large.[22]
This Genesis creational schematic is consistently maintained throughout the
Bible. God never amends nor appends it. Christ himself reaffirmed it as did the
apostle Paul:
“And some
Pharisees came to Him, testing Him, and saying, ‘Is it lawful for a man to
divorce his wife for any cause at all?’ 4 And He answered and said, ‘Have you
not read, that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND
FEMALE, 5 and said, 'FOR THIS CAUSE A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER,
AND SHALL CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE; AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH'? 6
‘Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has
joined together, let no man separate’.” (Matthew 19:3-6)[23]
“So
husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves
his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but
nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30
because we are members of His body. 31 ‘FOR THIS CAUSE A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS
FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE TO HIS WIFE; AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE
FLESH’. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ
and the church.” (Ephesians 5:28-32)[24]
Even though
Christ never specifically addressed homosexuality, He said all that needed to
be said about marriage and sexuality when he reaffirmed the Genesis 1-2
creational mandate! He didn’t address paedophilia, bestiality or necrophilia,
but He didn’t need to as He underscored and reaffirmed the Genesis 2 paradigm
for marriage.
It must be
concluded that the purpose and plan for marriage has a multifaceted meaning
attached to it from the moment of creation. It is as complex as it is
unalterable. To modify it arbitrarily to accommodate one’s sin is to invite the
judgment of God.[25] The New
Testament clearly reaffirms the Genesis creation mandate for marriage. God has
never altered His plan, even in light of a post-Genesis 3 world.
It is clear
from the biblical account of marriage that it is a divine institution, not a
mere civil arrangement. As such, civil government should only recognize what
God has clearly ordained.
In
conclusion then, what is the antidote for the current same-sex marriage craze?
It is, in large measure, for the church to reassume the stewardship mandate it
has been given by God for this divine institution. By asserting the following
practical actions, we can become the salt and light we should be in this area
of marriage. So what does it practically mean to have a God-honored marriage — this
applies to both singles who are considering marriage and those already married?:
1.
Pursue God’s Creation Pattern, not the World’s:
- SSM is not matrimony but fraternity. It lacks the necessary creational requirements and gender distinction to make it a marriage.
- Living together is not marriage but mere convenience — those who don’t think they need to sign a piece of paper, and so live together, would never dream of buying a house or car without first signing a “piece of paper”.
- Common law marriages are not marriage but an extended living situation.
- In the end, Government’s role is to recognize marriage as God intended, not redefine it out of existence. By redefining marriage, the nature of it is of necessity drastically changed.
2.
Pursue Purity: Anything beyond the boundaries of God’s blueprint is strictly
forbidden for “fornicators (pornos)
and adulterers (moixos) God will
judge.”
- Sequentially the sexual bond follows and flows from the covenant commitment that is made. Sexual sin is uniquely grievous, as it is a triune offense against God, the other person, and one’s self.
3.
Pursue your marriage Part (or role) Eph. 5:22-33: With wives seeking to submit
to their husbands, while their husbands pursue a Christ-like love that
sacrificially seeks his wife’s best interests.[26]
Follow the illustrative model of Christ’s relationship to the Church.
4.
Pursue the Priority of your Partner (spouse): Sacrificially seek their joy and
satisfaction through thoughtful self-denial.
5.
Pursue the forgiveness Provision in your marriage: “… and such were some of
you.” (1 Cor. 6:9-11).
- Live in the light of forgiveness. If your spouse sinned against you in the past and repented, forgive him or her. Holding a spouse’s sin against them only engenders the wormwood of bitterness.
- If you are currently mired in sexual sin — physical or mental — seek God’s escape route through Jesus Christ. Remember, He is a better Savior than you are a sinner!
Ray Ortland
well summarizes the utter uniqueness of marriage: “At its very heart, marriage
is not a human custom, variable according to changing times; it is a divinely
created institution, defined for all ages and all cultures in our shared,
primeval, perfect existence.”[27]
In the midst of the cultural onslaught in revolt against marriage uniqueness,
it is the Church of Jesus Christ that is called to both promote and preserve
these marriage distinctives. May God grant us the grace and wisdom we need to
honor this divine institution in face of the cultural tsunami of matrimonial
dishonor.
[1]
This is not to imply some physical representation is inherent to the idea of
the image of God in man, for God is Spirit. Rather, what is meant by the image
of God in man has more to do with those divinely communicated factors that
enable man to fulfill the mandate of dominion over creation. Humanity serves as
God’s representative over all of creation. For this reason, man bears the image
of God. This is what uniquely distinguishes us from the rest of creation. Hence,
we can effectively communicate, plan, work, and socialize in ways the rest of
creation cannot. Our dignity stems from our image bearing qualities!
[2] It
is often maintained by pro-gay activists that the traditional understanding of
the male/female distinction is a result of a “heteropatriarchal” understanding
of the Bible. There are many gays and feminists who see gender distinctions,
biological and otherwise, as a result of social constructs. Therefore, they
surmise, if we can rid ourselves of the traditional understanding by adopting a
new social construct, then society will be free to see there aren’t really any
differences between the sexes. Then true equality will be achieved. This is the
same thinking that has fueled the promotion of Gender Free Restrooms at many
colleges and universities in the USA.
[3]
These five examples are not meant to stereotype either sex. I realize these are
not absolute, but just pastoral observations with a measure of truth behind
them. I do understand these are not as true as they once were, because of the
feminist movement and more women in the work place. Some of these mindsets are
changing as men become more feminized and women become more masculinized.
Researchers Glenn T. Stanton and Dr. Bill Maier address this issue of the
differing emotional makeup between the sexes in chapter 10 of their excellent
book Marriage On Trial (pp.113-120).
Also see Greg Johnson, “The
Biological Basis for Gender-Specific Behavior,” in Recovering Biblical Manhood & Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical
Feminism, eds. John Piper and Wayne Grudem (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books,
1991), pp.280-293.
[4] The following two recent studies underscore the
contention here about the merits of heterosexual child rearing over same-sex
parenting: Mark Regnerus, Does it really
make no difference if your parents are straight or gay?, Online at:http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2012/06/gay_parents_are_they_really_no_different_.html , Accessed 13
October 2012; and Michael Cook, The ‘no
difference’ theory is dead , Online at:
http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/the_no_difference_theory_is_dead#sthash.cRvZhVdR.1uNDKFDk.dpuf,
Accessed on 23 May 2015.
[5] To
illustrate the above needed differences, think of the little boy who falls down
on his bicycle and hurts himself while breaking his bike at the same time. Whom
does the boy run to for comfort and healing? Mom of course. But when it is time
to fix the bike, to whom does he run? Dad! Both a mom and a dad are needed when
raising a child. This helps produce a well-rounded and fulfilled individual. In
light of the breakdown of the family, it is no wonder so many suffer from an
identity crisis and emotional distress.
[6] A
recent secular article indicates the importance and difference of the father’s
role in parenting: ANON., “Dad’s love is different from mom’s love,” Online at http://www.iol.co.za/htm/frame_babynet.php?click_id=694,
Accessed 19 March 2007.
[7] Glenn T. Stanton and Dr. Bill Maier, Marriage On Trial, (Downers Grove, IL: IVP.
2004), p. 126.
[8]
Ibid. p.173.
[9]
Authors David P. McWhirter and Andrew M. Mattison in their book The Male Couple studied 156 homosexual
relationships lasting from one to thirty-seven years. They concluded that “Only
seven couples have a totally exclusive sexual relationship, and these men all
have been together for less than five years. Stated another way, all couples
with a lasting relationship lasting more than five years have incorporated some
provision for outside sexual activity in their relationships.” The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop,
(Englewood Cliffs: Prentice-Hall, 1984), pp. 252-253.
[11] It is no surprise that many in the LGBT community
have redefined gender, marriage, and family to fit their ideological screed.
Now they have also redefined what it means to be monogamous, as the following
two links indicate. It was Dan Savage who coined the term “monogamish”, which
means many gay couples commit to open relationships with the freedom to see
others, so long as they stay socially monogamous they can practice sexual
polyandry or sexual polygyny: Joe
Carter, What You Should Know About
'Monogamish' Relationships, Online at:
http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/tgc/2013/03/07/what-you-should-know-about-monogamish-relationships/
, Accessed 10 December 2014; and “Are
Humans Meant To Be Monogamous?” Online at: http://www.livescience.com/mysteries/080319-llm-monogamy.html , Accessed 08 November 2008. For those
who have wondered about why the LGBT is so willing to abandon the required
gender distinction while still clinging to the numerical requirement of two
people, now you know. It is because they have redefined monogamy into a more
amorphous sum.
[12]
Daily’s article is filled with citations from a number of studies that have
been done on this issue of gay monogamy. It makes for very worthwhile reading.
Timothy J. Daily, Ph.D., “Comparing the
Lifestyle of Homosexual Couples to Married Couples,” Online at
http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?=IS04C02, Accessed 9 August 2007, p. 6.
[13]
Ibid. p.6.
[14]
Kathleen M. Clark et al, “A
Longitudinal Study of Religiosity and Mortality Risk,” Journal of Health Psychology, Vol. 4, No.3 (1999):381-391.
[15] Pieter Oberholzer, “Gay couples’ covenants with each other
and God exist, regardless of church attitude,” The Cape Times, 17 August 2004, p. 9.
[16] One study
concluded that of the gay men surveyed, 60% had at least 250 sexual partners,
28% had more than 1,000 sexual partners. 79% of those surveyed admitted that
more than half their partners were total strangers! Joseph P.Gudal. “HOMOSEXUALITY: Fact and
Fiction,” Online at http://www.equip.org/free/DH055-1.htm
, Accessed 17 August 2004. Also see Daily, “Comparing
the Lifestyle of Homosexual Couple to Married Couples,” who corroborates
these findings and provides a number of other more recent studies that closely
approximate these statistical findings.
[17] D. James
Kennedy and Jerry Newcomb, What’s Wrong With
Same-Sex Marriage? (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2004), p. 55.
[18]
Stanton and Maier, p. 138.
[19] John Piper, “Marriage: A Matrix of Christian
Hedonism,” Online at http://www.desiringgod.org/library/sermons/83/101683.html
, Accessed 7 September 2004. p.2.
[20] Jenni Evans, “Constitutional Court battle over gay
marriage begins,” The Cape Times, 18
May 2005.
[21] The Editors, “Nuclear Fission,” Online at http://www.worldmag.com/printer.cfm?id=7577
, Accessed
3
May 2005.
[22]
Stanton and Maier, p. 129.
[23]
Pro-gay theologians are rather fond of pointing out that Jesus never spoke out
against homosexuality. What they fail to note is that Jesus also never spoke
out directly against incest, rape, bestiality, necrophilia, pedophilia or a
host of other sexually related sins. Yet, when Christ responded to the
Pharisees in Matthew 19, He interestingly quoted from Genesis 1 and 2! By
referring to the creation mandate for marriage, He said all that needed to be
said in one over-arching statement. His reaffirmation of the original marriage
mandate is the final word on the matter! Given the proclivities of pro-gay
advocates to doubt much of what the Bible says, it is odd that they would
attach any authority to what Christ said or did not say.
[24]
The Ephesians 5:22-32 passage illustrates what marriage symbolizes, the
relationship of Christ as head over His bride the Church! Any form of marriage
other than that promoted in Genesis 1 and 2 fails to illustrate this most
crucial relationship between Christ and the Church. God mandated the marriage
blue- -print to concretely mirror the
relationship that Christ would ultimately have for His bride. SSM fails to
reflect the Ephesians 5:22-32 ideal, because it erases the vital distinctions
God intended.
[25]
Genesis 6:1-4 recounts some base manner of perversion regarding the Genesis 1
and 2 institution of marriage. The net result was the universal flood. To abandon
God’s plan for marriage by thinking we can somehow improve upon it, is to
abandon God. Romans 1:18-32 makes it clear that God gives individuals and
society over to their perversions when they reject Him and His commands (Romans
1:24, 26 and 28). It is of extreme interest to observe that Matthew 24:36-38
details that the second coming of Jesus is in accordance with the conditions
that existed during the time leading up to the Noahic flood. Could it be that a
gross perversion of the Genesis creation ordinance for marriage is one of the
defining features of the Christ’s second coming?
[26] As Ortland further explains, “One measure of
our reconciliation with God is whether His sovereign decrees draw from us a
response for worship, or resentment … Christian redemption does not redefine
creation; it restores creation, so that wives learn godly submission and
husbands learn godly headship.” Raymond Ortland Jr. “Male-Female Equality and
Male Headship Genesis 1-3” in in Recovering
Biblical Manhood & Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical Feminism, eds.
John Piper and Wayne Grudem (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 1991), p102.
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